Don’t Put Yourself In Other’s Shoes
Every one of us has a different way of thinking. And a different perception about things. Maybe the same thing is happening with alot of people, but the way of perceiving it is different for every person.
We often want to put ourselves in someone elses situation to feel what they think. And this might lead us towards a different feeling. Usually the word empathy is used to describe the situation. But this isn’t true in actual. Putting yourself in someone else’s shoe will always fill your mind with skewed ideas. Because of the varying level of consciousness in you and the other person.
- Experiences are always personal
Since we know that everyone has a different level of consciousness. This explains how everyones experience and perception about life are different. You know what, you can never stay happy if you always try to keep yourself in other places.
It would leave you just in a state of anxiety and stress. And this way you wont be able to concentrate more in life.
- You cannot understand everything from the outside
When you try to perceive others actions. By putting youself in their place. You always tend to think according to your level of consciousness. And because of this you arent able to understand the real experience of the other person. Since their problem is according to there knowledge, so its just basically a waste of time to put yourself in others shoes. Basically you cannot encounter the reality in this way as the impacts of different circumstances are always different on everyone.
It’s not neccessary that what your assuming from the outside about the person is actually true. Just keep in mind this way the perception about a certain thing dont match. So dont waste your time, by looking at things from the outside. Because you cant really understand a persons problem.
- Depression is a factor!
When you try to keep yourself in someone elses shoes, you tend to concentrate more on the other person. You ignore your ownself. And this way you are left in a state of despair and depression as you cant think about the blessings you have in your life.
For example if you see a poor person, with no shoes, no proper clothes, no shelter and no food. You tend to consider yourself in their position. In that case you will feel a sense of despair. Instead of getting into this situation, try to do something good for that person. You can by that person clothes and provide them a good place to stay.
Dont try to perceive things negatively as you will lose all the charms and happiness in your life. And this way you wont be able do something productive in your life.
- Believe in the present
Most of see someone in pain and start thinking about their future and get worried. You must learn to live in the present situation. Dont try to think about someone future, because your level of perception is different from others.
It might be possible that the other persons future is more brighter than what your thinking. So dont waste your time get worried over someone. Because it might be possible what your thinking isnt actually the reality.
For example if you see a person getting kicked out of college. And you try to think that he/she might never get into college ever. That will be wrong because failure teaches you to do more in life. So dont think about the future, just focus on the present situation.
- Take a third persons advice
Instead of putting yourself in someone elses shoes, its better to consult someone else. Posing direct questions allows you to understand the perspectives of others more. Maybe what your perceiving is totally wrong, and not the truth. And there is something behind which you get to know by consulting a third person. So, direct communication is better than assumptions.